To the Parent Expecting Multiples

Expecting multiples can be both an exhilarating and daunting experience. As you navigate the whirlwind of pregnancy, preparation, and the unique challenges that come with raising twins, triplets, or more, it’s natural to have a myriad of questions swirling in your mind. What joys lie ahead? What challenges are coming your way?

In honor of our multiples class starting up on November 13, we reached out to seasoned parents of multiples, gathering their thoughts on the best parts of having multiple little ones, the tougher moments, and the advice they wish they had received before diving into this wild ride. Their heartfelt insights will not only provide reassurance but also prepare you for the beautiful chaos that awaits. So grab a cup of coffee (and enjoy it hot, while you still can) and dive into the wisdom shared by those who’ve walked this path before you.

What was the hardest part of having multiples?

• “Double the work! And when both are crying and you have to prioritize one… It’s chaos. But it’s joyful chaos. Keep your expectations low and you’ll do great!” –Liz, parent of twins
• “I wish I’d known more about what to expect with early preemie delivery – a common occurrence for multiples and quite scary for parents.” –Naiomi, parent of twins
• “Finding babysitters was hard for a long time, and it may require two babysitters for a number of years. We also had multiple older children, all within five years of each other. But, although you are constantly taking care of two babies/toddlers/kids by yourself, it is not necessarily a task just anyone else is capable of. It was the most physically challenging pregnancy and recovery. I did PT after they were born because of how my muscles were stretched out of shape and had been compensating for the extra weight. Also – there were no maternity clothes that properly fit. I had to learn how to set boundaries/request specific help. There is so much help needed, but I still wanted to feel in charge and feel like I was capable of caring for the babies. Take some time to reflect and know what is best for you.” –Kayla, parent of twins
• “I felt like we had a bit of PTSD coming out of the ‘little’ years. Just sooo much to do and someone always needed something (also a feature of having multiple young non-twin siblings).” –David, parent of twins

Quick Answer

• Expecting multiples comes with double (or triple) the work, including feeding, diapers, and sleep routines.
• Early months can feel chaotic, so accept help and set realistic expectations.
• Safety, especially with preemies or during newborn care, is essential.
• Embrace humor, humility, and flexibility as your routines and systems evolve.
• Focus on the joys: snuggles, watching sibling interactions, and the unique bond multiples share.
• Invest in practical tools and support like specialized gear, baby monitors, or overnight help.
• Celebrate small wins and remember that your best is enough.

What is one thing you wish someone would have told you about having multiples?

• “The necessity of humility and humor!!” –Jess, parent of twins
• “The baby brezza and Twin–Z are truly lifesavers. Sleep in shifts if you can – best decision we ever made. That and formula… don’t know how we would have made it otherwise. Oh, and an overnight doula once a week (ask for family to contribute to the $$) just to have a night of sleep to look forward to!” –Liz, parent of twins
• “Less is more. The only thing I actually needed double of was burpcloths. It’s easier to keep up with bottles and dishes and laundry if there is less of it to do.” –Kayla, parent of twins

What is the best part of having multiples?

• “You don’t have to share the baby snuggles with your partner. By 6 months you get to watch them interact and be silly with each other. Plus, total badass street cred–anytime we tell folks we have twins, we get the ‘oh, you’re a superhero’ response that really all parents should get… but it still feels good and is always a confidence boost!” –Liz, parent of twins
• “It made it easier to be ok with them fussing to sleep, or working out small difficulties because I could not be everywhere at once.” –Kayla, parent of twins
• “Seeing them being so different despite a common environment. This goes with all siblings, but you see it happen at the same time with twins. It is always wild to me how different they can be.” –David, parent of twins
• “Feeling ‘full’ while holding two babies at once. One for each arm, lap.” –David, parent of twins
• “They are twice the cuteness! And they have a very special best buddy.” –Jessica, parent of twins
• “The best part of having multiples is seeing them interact with one another. The first time they ’noticed’ each other at around 5 months melted my heart! I may have shed a tear or two.” –Erin, parent of twins
• “The best thing about multiples is watching their eyes slowly open to each other. For most of the first year they felt like three singletons that shared the same house, but over the last few months they’ve begun looking each other in the eyes, smiling, waving, and imitating each other. They give each other hugs when one is sad, offer each other toys, and hold hands on walks. It’s a slow and subtle change, but one that makes the whole experience and identity of being a parent of multiples slowly unfold and take shape.” –Ben, parent of triplets